This past weekend I went for a picnic on the Heath with a long time friend - we've known each other for decades having spent our childhoods in the Bahamas. She is British and has lived here on and off most of her life. She also spent 4 years in Manhattan getting her Master's Degree so we've maintained our friendship happily for years. Now we're in the same town again -which is great. She's lovely.
I mentioned to her that I was having a difficult time meeting people. I have always been outgoing and make friends easily. I've met several people in my building and have had nice conversations with most of them - I said to two different neighbors, 'We should go and have a drink sometime.' They were both enthusiastic but it's never happened and I never asked again - they are still delightful when I run into them and it's all good. But I really would love to get to know them better.
My friend Tonya said, "That's not how the British do things. My father put this in prospective for me - Americans cannot differentiate between friends and acquaintances. In the US if you meet someone you invite them in and all is good. In Britain it takes more than that. You meet, you see each other a few times, and eventually you can have dinner - THEN you can be friends. It's not instantaneous."
I can see that it's somewhat true. I've made a few British 'friends' so far who have been very welcoming and delightful. But most of the people I'm meeting are American - which is great but I'd like to have more than the ex pat society as my circle of friends. I also would like to have dinner parties and get togethers sooner rather than later.
So I ask you - is this true? I'm trying not to be too eager but I sure would like to get out there more.